“When me and him first met, there was instant chemistry. We have so much in common, we’re both corporate raiders, close to our families, and we love action movies. (The more action the better!). “We celebrated 5 years of being together in February. Then, in March, Covid-19 came.
We had to start working from home, and after a month, I started noticing a change in our connection. Our conversations became fewer and we started just talking about bills and the pets. We barely spent time together, even though we were home most of the time, and our sex life became virtually non-existent. And even when we were intimate, it felt like we were just doing it to scratch an itch. The tenderness and excitement it once had wasn’t there anymore.
Now, he has gone back to working at the office, and I am still working from home. He told me when he went back that he had to catch up, that the weak economy hurt him financially. I’m trying to understand. But he always comes home late, when he does, he’s exhausted. I am starting to doubt his commitment to us, and his interest in me.”
“I love her, and I know she wants more attention, more quality time. I want to be with her more as well, but we’ve talked about having children and buying a house, and these things take money. It’s on me to earn that money, and it’s a lot of pressure. I want to make that future available to us, but that feels harder than ever right now. I’m not having an affair, but I know she doesn’t feel as connected as before, and I feel it too. I ask myself regularly, ‘What can I do to fix this?’
I haven’t come up with any answers, and I don’t know how I’m going to perform this balancing act of getting the funds we need to build our family and focusing on our relationship before this lack of attention goes too far. How can I get back to being that man she fell in love with? How can I be that man who is on a mission, driven, but still finds time to be intimate and connect deeply with her?”
It’s great that you two are questioning yourselves about your relationship. Now, all you need is to get to a place where you feel comfortable talking to one another about these issues. You can get back to that connection you cherished and had in the beginning. Don’t let Covid-19 or any hardship keep you from building that future together! A little support and guidance can be just the catalyst you two need to get that conversation and connection growing again. If you’re curious how I can help, let’s schedule a free, 45-minute session today. If I’m a good fit, we will work together to repair your connection and rekindle that spark and joy between you. Give Louis a free call and see if he’s a good fit for you two. Don’t wait! Schedule your call today.