Every relationship has rough patches. However, it doesn’t mean that you throw in the towel. Disagreements are normal in all relationships. But it’s how you move through them that has the opportunity to strengthen or weaken the bond. If you disconnect during moments of disagreement and discord, it makes the chance for repair virtually impossible.
Many times you stop talking due to the fear that there’s going to be an argument. This severs your communication, like a tree on telephone lines, and it will only make it harder to reestablish that connection. Instead, pray for one another, take a moment to journal, organize your thoughts, separate them from your feelings, then come together with your partner for a table talk (schedule a call My Calendar if you want to know how to conduct a couple’s table talk)
It can be challenging not to withdraw and withhold your true feelings when discord arises. It’s a defense mechanism. But the way forward to greater understanding and a stronger union is by saying the hard things and listening to your partner share in return. I will offer both of you two very important tips right now. 1. Decide, after you pray for one another, if you love each other enough to fight for your relationship. 2. Before you sit down at the table, make sure you are only interested in a resolution. Not in being right.
The desire for one or both people to be right has ruined many relationships. Do not let that be your fate. Look to rectify not be right. Again, if you need more insight into how to communicate more effectively as a couple, get in touch. I would love to help.
Follow me on Instagram: @louis_morris_coaching
Check Out Louis’s Get Your Groove Back Plan for couples and singles.
Thank you for supporting The Heart Matters and Louis Morris Coaching