The Final 5 Do’s For Men
1 Do little things on a regular basis. A woman doesn’t care if you call her at work to say, “I love you” or if you buy a new TV for the living room. The small things are worth just as much as the big ones.
2. Honor any agreements you have made with her. This applies to big or small matters. They can range from promising to be faithful, to mowing the lawn on Saturday. When you make a promise, keep it. Unless, there is something out of your control that prevents you from accomplishing the task.
3 Encourage her goals and direction. I spoke some time ago about the Arabic word, ‘libast.’ This is one of its meanings. You encourage her, you seek ways to motivate her to accomplish the things she wants, and you assist her as much as you can.
4 Find out what your partner would like to do and then do it with her. This Do also involves lots of communication. First, you have to talk with her about things she wants to do, and then you participate. Now, you don’t always have to like that thing. But you participate because she wants to, and she wants to experience it with you. Healthy relationships consist of reasonable flexibility.
5 Say, “I’m sorry” when you’ve done something you regret or that was hurtful to your partner, whether intentionally or unintentionally. This is a very important part of a sound relationship. Why? Because it shows her that the relationship is more important to you than your ego.
The Final 5 Do’s For Women
1 Make love creatively and often. Don’t be afraid to initiate lovemaking. Most of us might not want to admit this, but men like sex more than women. Now, they may not get as much pleasure from it as women do. (That’s if the man knows what he’s doing, women can have multiple orgasms in one sexual experience), but men like it more. So, explore this area of your relationship.
2 Honor any agreements you have made with him. I spoke about this in my book: A Treatise On Cultivating Manhood that men should be trustworthy. So, when the man you’re with possesses this quality, it’s all about respect with him. When you say you’re going to be somewhere at a certain time, be there. If you tell him you will never be unfaithful, don’t be. It’s about you respecting him enough to keep promises.
3 Support his goals and direction. We spoke about this for the men; therefore, it goes both ways. Encourage his mission and vision. Advise him to take big swings. Not ignorant swings, but big ones in order to achieve his goals. Always keep in my, you two are a team. A team has to work together and push each other to do better.
4 Ask for what you want! (Believe it or not, no matter how much he loves you, he really can’t read your mind.) Talk! Don’t worry about creating trouble and all of that nonsense. Trouble in a relationship is when one or both of you are not happy because you’re not getting what you need in the union. Be open and honest with him about what you want.
5 Accept his “No” gracefully, trusting that he would if he could. Now, sometimes he just can’t do what you ask. He doesn’t have the funds, it’s a value that you know he has that you want him to break all of a sudden, or something of that sort. When he says he can’t do it, let it go. Look at it this way, because you’re a quality woman, you have things that you won’t do either.
These are the last 5 Do’s for the men and women. We’ll start the Don’ts next week. See you then.
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