There are two ingredients that should be in the heart of a couple if they want to establish a strong and lasting bond.
- Good Intentions
If these two things exist with both people, the rest is communication and action. Now, mind you, it doesn’t always work out. As I’ve said in the past, everyone should have what I call ‘Relationship Requirements.’ Meaning, principles, and beliefs they will not bend on, no matter how much they like or love the other person.
This is one of the reasons I was thinking to myself this morning, “Relationships are not hard.” Maybe I’m biased when it comes to this because I’ve been giving people relationship advice ever since I was 13 years old, maybe because I’ve had my share of relationship mishaps and have always resorted to the Usher approach (Let It Burn), or it might have something to do with me being raised the only boy with 4 sisters.
I don’t know but relationships are not complex to me. What is important is the two people have the heart matters listed above, they have worked through their past relationship and childhood issues, and they have their Relationship Request and Relationship Requirements clearly defined. The rest is about effective communication and implementation.
This is the reason I mention to my clients that “Getting Your Groove Back,” is about working on yourself first. Whether it’s a couple or a single person, the process is the same. Your intentions for having a relationship must be clear, you must pinpoint the issues in the current union or past unions, and correct your faults, forgive yourself and your partner, and improve yourself inwardly to make progress going forward.
Now! I’m not saying that these things don’t require effort because they do. However, it’s just like anything else you’re passionate about. You must exert effort to obtain what you want. An intimate relationship is no different. But, it’s not hard. When you’re passionate about something, it doesn’t feel like work when you perform the activity you’re passionate about.
Most people are passionate about having a healthy lasting relationship. If that’s the case, where is the difficultly? On the contrary, you feel good when you do the work because you know it’s going to produce amazing results between you and your partner. Know! A healthy relationship should be mixed with ease and discomfort.
I explained this to some people the other day. A couple who has high goals individually and as a couple must motivate and push one another to be better. In other words, both people don’t feel uneasy when it comes to saying things to their partner that might cause some discomfort. Mind you, this comes with knowing your partner is humble enough to accept the truth. However, this is connected to both people being comfortable and confident with who they are. Secondly, the truth is not always easy to face. Sometimes, it will cause your partner some temporary agitation. I say temporary because once he or she thinks about it, they will see the benefit in what you told them.
This is what a strong and healthy union is all about. Give and take, push and pull, support and criticism, and working together to obtain benefit. Keep in mind that all of these elements must be implemented with good intentions, honesty, clear and effective communication, affection, and mercy. If you want what’s best for yourself and the other person, what’s difficult about these things.
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