Why is lending a hand important to me? It started with my mother. She was the most giving person I’ve ever known. I inherited my sense of selflessness from her. Now don’t get me wrong, she took care of herself. I was thinking this morning how my mother never went out looking disheveled because she was always concerned about cleanliness and her appearance.
She was my first example of how to take care of myself while still having the desire and willingness to help others. The second thing was, when I was about 13 years old people in my neighborhood started talking to me about personal and private issues concerning their family and friends. I’ve always been a people person, so I would listen and give them the best advice I could.
I think back to those events now and I say to myself, ‘I was 13, why was I giving people advice about family, friends, and romantic relationships?’ The simple answer is, I loved it. This is the main reason I became a coach. Things that involve relationships, romantic or otherwise, are matters of the heart that deeply affect people’s mood and how they conduct other affairs.
It is an amazing feeling to see good results from people when it comes to the aforementioned issues. I remember I gave a female friend of mine some advice concerning a cheating boyfriend. She followed the advice, and she was so happy when she talked about it after she saw the good results. I was totally happy for her and it made my day. I was 15 years old. That incident changed my life for the better. I had no idea that listening and asking questions could affect people’s lives in such a positive way.
Those are the 2 roots of coaching: listening and asking questions. However, as a coach one must ask the right questions in order to find out what the person really wants to achieve. I wrote all of that just to say, “This is my ‘why’ for being a coach.