I recently did an episode of The Heart Matters where I gave relationship tips for men and women. In this podcast, the 4th tip for women was teaching the man how to treat you. I was thinking about this and decided to give women some tips on how to accomplish that goal.
In this post I will offer the women 5 tips on how to teach a man how to treat you.
Communicate: Tell him what you like and what you don’t like. What you want and what you don’t want. Many times, this step can be difficult. However, it all depends on the approach. Communicating in this way does require some self-awareness and timing. For one, it shouldn’t be done in a belligerent way, nor should it be done during times of anger.
This is part of the timing that I mentioned above. If your dislikes are communicated during these times, more than likely, your man will become defensive; therefore, you won’t accomplish your objective, which is, rectification. Another thing that is important when it comes to this is to be clear about the things you are happy or displeased with. For instance, “Baby! I like that you put your arm around my waist in front of your friends.” “Honey! I don’t like when you make fun of me in front of your mother.”
Be clear about the incident or action that you are pleased or displeased with. Remember, “Lack of communication brings about confusion.” To teach him, there can’t be any confusion.
Treat Yourself Well: In most cases, your man will take his cue from you. If he sees how well you treat yourself, he will have a sense that you are not willing to tolerate the opposite from anyone else. When he witnesses this, it is a visual confirmation that you hold yourself in high esteem; therefore, he must do the same.
Treat Him The Way You Want To Be Treated: If you want him to be open and vulnerable with you, do it with him. If you want him to surprise you and be more affectionate, then you should be that way with him. If you want him to be a better lover, then you must lead by example. In most cases, he will follow your lead when it comes to these issues and more.
Don’t Be A Party-girl Or Side-Chick: Now let me clarify this a little. I am not saying you shouldn’t have fun. Men like women who are fun. What I am saying is, don’t make that a constant goal. Where you always want to go out and party. This is not good because he will begin to view you in that light. As just a girl he can party with, which will eventually lead to the side chick position. He won’t see you as the woman to get serious with but will view you as the woman he can sleep with and have fun with.
Don’t Settle: Ladies! You must understand and know your value. In knowing that, you must realize that you have options if he is not treating you the way you deserved to be treated in the relationship. A relationship is about give and take, care and concern, affection, and mercy, from both parties involved. If you’re giving and giving but not getting what you need and deserve, don’t settle for that.
I’m giving these tips because I know that some men just don’t know how to treat women. If this is the case with your man and he is not trying to learn himself, then it is your duty to teach. Be patient ladies!