It is amazing how the Creator can show us our path at a young age. There were three things that I had a knack for when I was a child. I found out in the 4th grade that I loved words. At 13 I started listening to and advising people about relationship problems, and I started to practice how to interview people in my bedroom.
Let me explain. I grew up in the ghetto (or the hood as it’s called today), so I couldn’t share certain things about myself with my buddies. They would have thought I was soft. That’s not a good thing where I grew up. So, I would sit in my bedroom and pretend to be the host of a show, and I would play the guest as well. I would act like a celebrity or politician, ask questions, and answer them. (Now you see why I couldn’t tell my buddies.) Fast forward to present day, this is what I love to do in my coaching and on my podcast. I’m constantly interviewing people or being interviewed.
Have you ever really thought about this word, interview? It can be exactly the way it sounds. I have to take you back to my childhood, for you to understand why I have this point of view. I used to watch all the talk shows when I was young. Donohue, Geraldo, Johnny Carson, etc. However, these talks shows did not shape my understanding of this word, interview.
There were 2 shows that did. Barbara Walters Specials and the show called Later with Bob Costas. They absolutely made me understand that an interview should be exactly the way it sounds. To get an internal view of the person. Bob and Barbara would make people feel that they could share anything with them. Due to this, guests would even cry on their show.
They would share deep and personal things about themselves without seeming to ever give it a second thought. This is my life now. I talk to people about their relationships and spiritual lives, which are deeply personal, and I talk with smart, driven people on The Heart Matters. People have to internally view me, to see if I’m the right coach for them. Am I a good listener? Do I have their best interest at heart? Will I be able to motivate them when needed? etc.?
I had no idea when I was practicing in my bedroom that the Creator would allow me to help others by doing what I did then. It is fantastically rewarding to me. I take an internal view of people so I can help them, and in turn, they help me take an internal view of myself.