It’s a time for healing and forgiveness. We’re going through a rough patch. That’s life, right? However, healing + forgiveness = happiness. Let me speak from my own experience. There is a person, who shall remain nameless, he and I were very close. But, due a religious difference of opinion, he became harsh and declared himself as my enemy.
We argued about this difference of opinion, and it hurt a great deal that he felt the need to take such a harsh position with me. However, all of that didn’t hurt me as much as when he was informed by someone else that my mother had passed away and he didn’t even come to me and say, “Hey! I know we’re not speaking but I was sorry to hear about your mother.”
It hurt me more than anything he had said or done previously. Why am I telling this story? Because, I forgave him. I can’t be hypocritical by imploring others to forgive but not do it myself. This is the time we have been blessed to live in. Not only that, but this is the time we are meant to live in. We are blessed to live now because just little acts of kindness can affect people so deeply.
One of my nieces made a video online for her new business and I noticed the lighting wasn’t good, so I gave her a ring light. She literally started crying when I gave it to her. It surprised me. But this is what I mean — there is so much rudeness, inconsideration for the feelings of others, and just plain evil going on in the world. Just a small act of kindness can make a large impact. Larger than we could ever imagine.
In order for us to have a strong impact, we must first heal ourselves by practicing forgiveness. We don’t have to forget. I didn’t forget what transpired between me and the individual I mentioned before, but I had to forgive him. He sent me a friend request on Facebook recently. I accepted, and he messaged me shortly thereafter. I replied, and I promise you this — I only want good for him.
Just because people do bad things doesn’t mean we have to hold on to those things ourselves. Trust me, it’s part of the healing process. There is a tradition that states, “Kindness has never been added to a thing except that it made it better.” This is not only the state we should be in personally — we need this as a country. We need to heal and forgive. By doing these things, we can truly be happy. I pray for people. It’s important to me.
Why wouldn’t I do that? When I look at my life, what God has done for me, saved me from, protected me from when I couldn’t protect myself, why would I not want others to be healed? Why wouldn’t I want other people to be better? And why wouldn’t I forgive? After all, God has forgiven me.
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