Many women find themselves in situations where they want to please their husbands but aren’t sure how to do it. The first thing to understand is that for men in committed relationships sex is not just a physical act. It’s about intimacy.
Men who are into commitment are into intimacy. One of the main ways he expresses his desire and passion for her is through sex. Unfortunately, many couples stop talking about sex the longer they’ve been together. According to one survey, less than half of married couples talk about what they like or don’t like sexually.
Less than 20% share fantasies with each other. This is not good because having a healthy and happy sex life also involves clear and open communication about the subject. If you want to satisfy your husband sexually, take the five tips listed below and run with them.
“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them.” ~ Thom Yorke
Start With Foreplay
Foreplay is the most important part of sex. A huge misconception about men is that we don’t like foreplay. Ladies! This is not the case. Again, when he wants real closeness with his wife, sex is about much more than intercourse.
Since foreplay leads to sex, and you can indulge in it as long as you want, don’t take it lightly. In your foreplay with him, don’t just focus on his penis. Make sure you are focusing on other parts of his body. Pay particular attention to his erogenous zones.
Also, using your mouth is always a good idea during and after foreplay. Many women and some men have a problem with this, and most of the time it’s based on some formed religious belief.
Check out this article for more clarity on this subject: Religious Restrictions Regarding Sexual Relations. In any case, these things will drive your husband wild with anticipation for what’s coming next.
“Sex is… perfectly natural. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So why don’t we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings because we are all sexual?”- Sue Johanson
Try Something New
Understand that sex should consist of exploration. Exploring different ways to please your husband, thusly pleasing yourself. Keeping this in mind, don’t get stuck in a rut when it comes to exploring physical pleasure with him. Here are five things you might want to try:
1. Try topping him or letting him top you.
2. Experiment with dirty talk. Whisper to him what you’re going to do next.
3. Invite him to use toys. Seeing you pleased will please him. A vibrator every now and then will spice things up.
4. Take turns pleasing each other orally.
5. Letting him watch you pleasure yourself from time to time.
One of the best ways to sexually stimulate your husband is by taking care of yourself. Keep yourself together, even around the house. I’m not talking about walking around wearing dresses and gowns. I’m just talking about giving him attractive outfits to look at on a daily basis.
One day it might be jeans and a t-shirt. Another day it’s one of his dress shirts. Still another day it’s short. Just look attractive to him. After all, that’s what brought the two of you together in the first place.
Be confident in who you are. Confidence is sexy. The more he observes you are confident and secure as a woman and sexually, the more attractive you’ll be to him. Couple this with you asking for what you want sexually.
Many women believe this is a turn-off to men. It’s not! If your husband is secure in his masculinity, he will welcome you telling him what you want sexually and will love it when you take charge of the sexual experience.
Have Sex Outside Of The Bedroom
This is a total turn-on for men. Having sex in other than the bedroom excites him. Make sure you open this door wide for him. Have sex in the car, on the kitchen table, in the shower, in the living room on different furniture, and anywhere else you can think of that will enhance the sexual experience.
Also, Having sex in other than the bedroom can lead to creative ways to do roleplay. Maybe a little officer and suspect? The point is, to use your imagination and be spontaneous at times. Pleasing your husband will bring the two of you closer and bring more pleasure to the marriage.