Sometimes relationships don’t last. It is important for the people involved in unions that fall apart to not let the bad effects of a divorce or break-up linger spiritually or emotionally. Here, I give 3 tips that will speed up the healing process.
1 Learn The Lessons
This is the first step that must be taken. Not only in relationships but in life, there are lessons to be learned in good or bad occurrences. However, this process will look different depending on the mindset of the person. One of the surefire ways to accomplish this is through writing.
I know it sounds strange, but writing helps us separate our thoughts and feelings about a person or situation from our body. In doing so, we are able to examine those thoughts and feelings with a more critical eye in order to gain the lessons we need to heal.
2 Practicing Forgiveness
This not only entails forgiving our former partner. But we must also forgive ourselves. In many cases, we are harder on ourselves when a relationship falls apart because we think we could have done more to keep it together. In some instances that is true. That both people weren’t willing to give more of themselves to the union.
However, holding on to the resentment we feel for ourselves or our former partner, will not only hinder us in relationships going forward, but it could affect other areas of our life if we don’t rid ourselves of the resentment. One of the ways to do this is to examine our own mistakes first. The reason being, we will understand as human beings we are flawed.
Consciously acknowledging that fact makes us realize that mistakes shouldn’t define us but should motivate us to be better. Practicing forgiveness also improves our connection to the Creator, which in turn, He gives us the peace of heart and mind to move past our mistakes and the mistakes of our former partner.
3 Refresh & Rebuild
In short, don’t stay stuck. Try new things. Get a new hairdo or haircut, buy some new clothes, try a new hobby, meet new people, etc. You get the idea. Don’t sit around and think about the old relationship. Actively pursue moving on. Don’t just think about it or talk about it. Do it. Enhance spiritual practices. Learn more. Either through reading, audiobooks, educational videos, anything to help expand our horizons, go for it.
No question, divorce, and breakups are tough. But we can’t allow them to cripple us in any way. Life is too short to debilitate ourselves due to a past relationship.
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