Why don’t you whisper to me anymore? When that stopped, I knew we were dealing with some serious issues. I miss it, and I miss you. Why didn’t you tell me when your feelings started to change? The way you fascinated me with your drive and ambition. Your passion and willingness to explore… I miss it all. What happened? Where did we stumble? One minute the ship was moving forward and then it came to a standstill.
Why don’t you touch me with passion anymore? You no longer find me fascinating? I’m still down for you. I’m still learning and growing. You see me trying to make moves for us on a daily basis, so talk to me. Tell me what happened so we can get back on track. So we can get back to really living and loving. Right now, we are merely existing as a couple, and this is not what I agreed to.
Why don’t you grab me the way you used to? Is there someone else? Have you found another person that you’re passionate about? I’m asking myself all of these questions and more because you have me guessing. We don’t share anymore. It’s all about bills, money, and the kids. What has changed in your heart? Mine is still the same. You’re still the person I want to live with and love for the rest of my life. Has that changed for you?
Why don’t you make love to me anymore? All I feel is obligation when you touch me now. I understand fully the statement that obligation kills arousal. How can we get it back? Can we, or is it too late? I know you can’t answer because we don’t talk about what’s in our hearts anymore.
Why don’t we share what’s in our hearts anymore? We would do that all the time. I miss your heart. I miss your touch. I miss your whisper. I miss your embrace. Should we seek outside help because inside, I’ve run out of excuses to make? Why did our love take this ugly turn? I know you still love me because every now and then I catch you looking at me with the eyes you had when we first met. The spark is still there, but where did the rest of it go?
Help me put this puzzle together so when can make a decision about our future. Can you tell me my part in this trouble we’re having? Help me understand what we need to repair. Or, should we just walk away? Should we go our separate ways, let it burn, and learn the lessons that we need going forward. I need answers, so please tell me. Why don’t you?
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